Parties are an opportunity for people to gather together to celebrate special events or circumstances in their lives. Some of those special events could include birthdays, anniversaries, promotions, weddings, etc.
Generally, when people think of a party they think in terms of celebrating events that indicate good news. However, parties that are becoming increasingly popular are divorce parties. The popularity of divorce parties is based on the concept of divorce parties, the benefits that these gatherings provide and the ideas that can be utilized in throwing a divorce party.
What Are Divorce Parties?
Divorce parties are gatherings of friends who wish to support an individual who is going through or has gone through a divorce. Generally these parties are festive in nature and are designed to celebrate freedom, support divorcing friends and help in the healing and recovery process.
Often, these parties include music and are held in an exciting environment. In addition, there is usually plenty of appropriate food and drink. Also, divorce parties can take on a thematic approach. These themes surround the divorcing individual’s personal tastes, divorce theme, new circumstances, etc.
Benefits Of Divorce Parties
There are many benefits that are associated with being involved in a divorce party or hosting a divorce party. One of the major benefits of divorce parties is the support that is given to the divorcing individual. Often an individual who is going through a divorce may run the gamut emotionally. By hosting or attending a divorce party you are saying to that individual that you care and that you are there to support them.
In addition, divorce parties allow for the separated individual to use this experience as a cleansing opportunity. Often, individuals who may experience a tragic circumstance hold on to their emotions and don’t give expression to what they are feeling. Divorce parties can be that the venue where those feelings can be vented.
Also, divorce parties do not need it to be held on the day when the divorce becomes final. The divorce celebration can be held weeks or months later and can be an opportunity to meet new acquaintances.
Ideas For Divorce Parties
There are many creative themes or ideas that can be used for divorce parties. Some of those ideas can include an independence theme which can reflect the freedom that the individual will now enjoy because of the divorce. Examples of decorations could include balls being separated from chains or famous days on the calendar associated with independence.
An additional idea could be a cruise. This cruise could be labeled as a getaway cruise which could both figuratively and literally represent the getting away from a bad relationship.
One additional idea could include a masquerade party. The masquerade party could incorporate a theme such as a prison break. Some of the masquerade party costumes could be convict uniforms, prisoner guards, dressing up as a pardon or parole document, etc.
Monday, 26 April 2010
Sunday, 25 April 2010
Planning a Divorce Party
For Katie (name changed to protect her identity), it was the final straw. After a series of affairs and more fights than she could count, her husband was now grinning at her as he revealed he'd brought a suitcase full of marijuana to sell on their family vacation. Katie yelled at her spouse, "Are you crazy? If we'd been caught, we both would have gone to jail. The state would have taken our children away, you stupid freak!"
With that, she filed for divorce. As the countdown to the final divorce decree began, Katie's friends gathered round to support her. But it wasn't quite the right kind of support. While her friends acted like she should be in mourning, Katie felt she'd finally made a wonderful, life-affirming choice in getting a toxic man out of her home and out of her life. She decided that the end of her marriage did not deserve a funeral. It deserved a party.
Traditionally, divorce has been seen as a loss. In fact, this view has become so prevalent that people who do not grieve are often accused of being in denial. But what about someone like Katie who is genuinely not sad? If you are one of these women - or men - you might want to consider marking your divorce by throwing yourself a divorce party.
Divorce Party Tip #1: Set the Right Mood
Tell the friends you invite upfront that this is going to be a celebration of the beginning of your life as a single person. Explain firmly that it is not going to be a pity party or a chance to rehash everything that went wrong in the marriage.
Divorce Party Tip #2: Avoid Inviting Close Mutual Friends
In most marriages, some people are closer to the wife, others are closer to the husband, and still others are close friends with both. People in the latter category may feel awkward and embarrassed about celebrating your divorce with you, especially if your spouse does not see the divorce as cause for celebration. Keep the guest list for the divorce party restricted to your close and personal friends.
Divorce Party Tip #3: Don't Taunt Your Spouse with the Party
Just because you feel the end of the marriage is cause for celebration doesn't mean your spouse feels the same way. If your spouse is grieving the divorce, there's no reason to kick him or her in the teeth with your newfound happiness. Remember that your life is taking a positive turn - you can afford to be discreet and gracious.
Divorce Party Tip #4: Look to the Future
The divorce party provides a great opportunity to talk with your friends about your life plans. Where do you want to be in five years? Have everyone write down five changes they would like to make in their lives and promise to meet again next year to see if everyone is on track. If your group enjoys a touch of the supernatural, why not hire a psychic to do readings, or buy a tarot deck and take turns doing readings for each other?
The end of a marriage doesn't have to be tragic. If you see it as a positive event, don't be shy about throwing yourself a divorce party to celebrate the new direction your life is taking.
With that, she filed for divorce. As the countdown to the final divorce decree began, Katie's friends gathered round to support her. But it wasn't quite the right kind of support. While her friends acted like she should be in mourning, Katie felt she'd finally made a wonderful, life-affirming choice in getting a toxic man out of her home and out of her life. She decided that the end of her marriage did not deserve a funeral. It deserved a party.
Traditionally, divorce has been seen as a loss. In fact, this view has become so prevalent that people who do not grieve are often accused of being in denial. But what about someone like Katie who is genuinely not sad? If you are one of these women - or men - you might want to consider marking your divorce by throwing yourself a divorce party.
Divorce Party Tip #1: Set the Right Mood
Tell the friends you invite upfront that this is going to be a celebration of the beginning of your life as a single person. Explain firmly that it is not going to be a pity party or a chance to rehash everything that went wrong in the marriage.
Divorce Party Tip #2: Avoid Inviting Close Mutual Friends
In most marriages, some people are closer to the wife, others are closer to the husband, and still others are close friends with both. People in the latter category may feel awkward and embarrassed about celebrating your divorce with you, especially if your spouse does not see the divorce as cause for celebration. Keep the guest list for the divorce party restricted to your close and personal friends.
Divorce Party Tip #3: Don't Taunt Your Spouse with the Party
Just because you feel the end of the marriage is cause for celebration doesn't mean your spouse feels the same way. If your spouse is grieving the divorce, there's no reason to kick him or her in the teeth with your newfound happiness. Remember that your life is taking a positive turn - you can afford to be discreet and gracious.
Divorce Party Tip #4: Look to the Future
The divorce party provides a great opportunity to talk with your friends about your life plans. Where do you want to be in five years? Have everyone write down five changes they would like to make in their lives and promise to meet again next year to see if everyone is on track. If your group enjoys a touch of the supernatural, why not hire a psychic to do readings, or buy a tarot deck and take turns doing readings for each other?
The end of a marriage doesn't have to be tragic. If you see it as a positive event, don't be shy about throwing yourself a divorce party to celebrate the new direction your life is taking.
Saturday, 24 April 2010
The Story of Divorce Papers
The divorce papers can be a disturbing component of the divorce process, and because laws vary from state to state, the nature of the divorce papers can also change from state to state. In the United States, each state is permitted to create its own divorce laws. A different law in each state creates a variety of divorce papers in this country, depending on the area that you live in. This can make it confusing and overwhelming at times for those who are pursuing this avenue in dissolving their marriage.
The Lawyers
The basic fact is that most divorce papers are written by attorneys, and they represent their client’s perspective and how their client wants to dissolve the partnership. Fortunately, in most western societies, the act of determining the separation of assets, and support of any children involved, is removed from the parties themselves. Indeed, it is even removed from the lawyers in most cases. The judge overseeing the case is the final individual who will resolve the issues regarding the divorce as fairly and justly as possible.
One of the most important elements within divorce papers are those measures that protect the children or other descendents of the partnership that the divorce is dissolving. It is up to these specific divorce papers to state how these children will be cared for, supported, and provided every opportunity to make something of their lives. These papers will determine where the children will live and how much time they will spend with each of their parents.
Final Papers
The final divorce papers that are issued by the courts are known as the Decree Nisi Absolute in the United Kingdom. This symbolic piece of paper, the actual divorce decree, is paperwork that most people find they constantly need as they make major purchases and life decisions. Particularly, if you were to choose to enter into another legal marriage partnership, it is required in most western countries that you display evidence that you are single. Divorce papers then end up having a strangely important spot in a divorcee’s future life.
The final word on divorce papers must be on how they are delivered. In most states in this country, there is a delay from the final hearing to the issuing of the decree. It is somewhat disturbing to think that the final divorce papers are more often than not received in the mail. What an ignoble way to end partnerships and marriages that were entered into with love. The commitment of love and years together are now dissolved in a piece of mail. However, once that piece of paper is received, the divorce is finally complete, and both members of the former marriage can begin the process of moving forward with their lives.
The Lawyers
The basic fact is that most divorce papers are written by attorneys, and they represent their client’s perspective and how their client wants to dissolve the partnership. Fortunately, in most western societies, the act of determining the separation of assets, and support of any children involved, is removed from the parties themselves. Indeed, it is even removed from the lawyers in most cases. The judge overseeing the case is the final individual who will resolve the issues regarding the divorce as fairly and justly as possible.
One of the most important elements within divorce papers are those measures that protect the children or other descendents of the partnership that the divorce is dissolving. It is up to these specific divorce papers to state how these children will be cared for, supported, and provided every opportunity to make something of their lives. These papers will determine where the children will live and how much time they will spend with each of their parents.
Final Papers
The final divorce papers that are issued by the courts are known as the Decree Nisi Absolute in the United Kingdom. This symbolic piece of paper, the actual divorce decree, is paperwork that most people find they constantly need as they make major purchases and life decisions. Particularly, if you were to choose to enter into another legal marriage partnership, it is required in most western countries that you display evidence that you are single. Divorce papers then end up having a strangely important spot in a divorcee’s future life.
The final word on divorce papers must be on how they are delivered. In most states in this country, there is a delay from the final hearing to the issuing of the decree. It is somewhat disturbing to think that the final divorce papers are more often than not received in the mail. What an ignoble way to end partnerships and marriages that were entered into with love. The commitment of love and years together are now dissolved in a piece of mail. However, once that piece of paper is received, the divorce is finally complete, and both members of the former marriage can begin the process of moving forward with their lives.
Friday, 23 April 2010
What To Look For in A Divorce lawyer
A divorce is something, for which people do not plan in advance, and the end result is often quite predictable which, because there has been no advance planning, and is without an aim, often causes people to see a dent being made in their wallets. You will definitely be one of the many that have to shell out money to pay the divorce lawyer, and who will lose your assets as well as face a number of other tricky situations.
Can Often Be A Less Than Satisfying Experience
To add insult to injury, dealing with a divorce lawyer can often be less than satisfying and gives occasion for many complaints arising. They could cause you to lose custody of the children, see money go out to pay for spouses that have successfully hidden their true worth, and you may have also spent considerable money without seeing any tangible results.
The divorce lawyer, who sees in this form of legal battle, a means to make some money, especially when one considers how popular and complex such cases are, treats divorce cases as a cash cow waiting to be milked. With costs of divorce being pretty unaffordable, many people may not even be able to afford the luxury of a divorce lawyer.
To really get the most out of your divorce lawyer, it is thus imperative that you spend some time planning the divorce case and it should be treated similar to how you planned your wedding. You should be able to clearly state to the divorce lawyer what your case is and what issues are involved. Most divorce lawyers appreciate brevity, and some may even charge an overly longwinded customer more.
The divorce lawyer that you hire should be a person that is clear in his or her thinking, and can strategize well as well as have enough time to spare for your case. It does not necessarily have to be a big and fancy firm, but should be one that fits your needs well. There is no doubt that entering into a divorce litigation will prove to be expensive as well as cause a great deal of emotional distress. You would thus be well advised to ascertain that the divorce lawyer that you hire has the requisite skill sets to win you your case.
The divorce lawyer should be more than a person that knows all the processes involved in divorce cases, and should be able to set goals and achieve them. Each action and play that he or she makes should be to achieve these goals rather than simply going through the different steps of the whole process of the divorce case. Being focused as well as objective, the divorce lawyer may thus further your goals and also prove to be cost effective.
Can Often Be A Less Than Satisfying Experience
To add insult to injury, dealing with a divorce lawyer can often be less than satisfying and gives occasion for many complaints arising. They could cause you to lose custody of the children, see money go out to pay for spouses that have successfully hidden their true worth, and you may have also spent considerable money without seeing any tangible results.
The divorce lawyer, who sees in this form of legal battle, a means to make some money, especially when one considers how popular and complex such cases are, treats divorce cases as a cash cow waiting to be milked. With costs of divorce being pretty unaffordable, many people may not even be able to afford the luxury of a divorce lawyer.
To really get the most out of your divorce lawyer, it is thus imperative that you spend some time planning the divorce case and it should be treated similar to how you planned your wedding. You should be able to clearly state to the divorce lawyer what your case is and what issues are involved. Most divorce lawyers appreciate brevity, and some may even charge an overly longwinded customer more.
The divorce lawyer that you hire should be a person that is clear in his or her thinking, and can strategize well as well as have enough time to spare for your case. It does not necessarily have to be a big and fancy firm, but should be one that fits your needs well. There is no doubt that entering into a divorce litigation will prove to be expensive as well as cause a great deal of emotional distress. You would thus be well advised to ascertain that the divorce lawyer that you hire has the requisite skill sets to win you your case.
The divorce lawyer should be more than a person that knows all the processes involved in divorce cases, and should be able to set goals and achieve them. Each action and play that he or she makes should be to achieve these goals rather than simply going through the different steps of the whole process of the divorce case. Being focused as well as objective, the divorce lawyer may thus further your goals and also prove to be cost effective.
The Basics of Divorce Laws
Divorce laws change by state in the United States and by country across the world. There are still several countries and parts of the world where the divorce laws are archaic, and in some areas the act is almost considered illegal. In the United States, each state has a separate chapter or title that is identified as the primary text for the divorce law. The basics of these laws are similar and include reference to basic parentage, visitation rights, custody criteria and the requirements for child support and property. Typically, all divorce laws in the United States have very specific grounds for divorce.
Origin
There are actually references to the dissolution of marriage in the bible, and some refer to the definition of a Jewish patriarchal family for the Jewish origin of divorce. But more importantly, why are there laws for this in the first place? The fact is, without divorce laws, human nature would take over and the result would be a complete breakdown in how two parties handle their mutual concerns and disagreements. In most western countries marriage is a legal contract and divorce is the annulment of that contract.
The phrase, “all is fair in love and war,” typifies how many people might react without divorce laws. Common sense or decency cannot always be guaranteed, which is why the divorce laws are in place to ensure that some basic human rights exist. Perhaps the most important aspect of divorce law is those components that protect the innocent children that are so often involved in this process. These children are entangled with the couple that is in the separation, due to the couple’s mutual commitments to one another. Divorce laws should ensure that these children get a fair shake in the process. It is a parent’s obligation to provide and care for their children, until those children reach the legal age of adulthood.
Extremes
In some countries, even well into the 20th century, divorce was only a right for the male in the marriage. In Uganda, it was not until 2004 that women were given equality under the divorce laws, and were allowed to divorce their husbands on the grounds of adultery. The previous laws in that country had supported a male’s right to do the same thing. Uganda typifies how divorce is viewed in Africa. Marriage is more of an ownership right for the male, than a partnership agreement. In many societies, divorce laws are not viewed as necessary to the rights of marriage, but are all based on this male ownership principle.
Origin
There are actually references to the dissolution of marriage in the bible, and some refer to the definition of a Jewish patriarchal family for the Jewish origin of divorce. But more importantly, why are there laws for this in the first place? The fact is, without divorce laws, human nature would take over and the result would be a complete breakdown in how two parties handle their mutual concerns and disagreements. In most western countries marriage is a legal contract and divorce is the annulment of that contract.
The phrase, “all is fair in love and war,” typifies how many people might react without divorce laws. Common sense or decency cannot always be guaranteed, which is why the divorce laws are in place to ensure that some basic human rights exist. Perhaps the most important aspect of divorce law is those components that protect the innocent children that are so often involved in this process. These children are entangled with the couple that is in the separation, due to the couple’s mutual commitments to one another. Divorce laws should ensure that these children get a fair shake in the process. It is a parent’s obligation to provide and care for their children, until those children reach the legal age of adulthood.
Extremes
In some countries, even well into the 20th century, divorce was only a right for the male in the marriage. In Uganda, it was not until 2004 that women were given equality under the divorce laws, and were allowed to divorce their husbands on the grounds of adultery. The previous laws in that country had supported a male’s right to do the same thing. Uganda typifies how divorce is viewed in Africa. Marriage is more of an ownership right for the male, than a partnership agreement. In many societies, divorce laws are not viewed as necessary to the rights of marriage, but are all based on this male ownership principle.
Thursday, 22 April 2010
Divorce Law: Is No-fault Divorce Causing The High Rate Of Divorces In America?
Divorce means ending a marriage and is a difficult time in the life of every person affected by such a case. There is much emotional upheaval as well as the need to make tough decisions. Before proceeding further in your quest to end your marriage through divorce, it is necessary that you check out the divorce law pertaining to your state, as there are considerable differences from state to state.
Nearly Half of All American Marriages May End in Divorce
Americans are more and more often going in for divorce, and it is believed that as many as half of all Americans will have undergone a divorce to end their marriages. This makes it necessary for them to understand the divorce law completely. Knowing what is allowed and what is not in the divorce laws of the land is certainly very important if you wish to have any success in this matter. There are differences in divorce laws from state to state, which makes it necessary for you to determine what the exact laws are that affect your particular case.
The laws relating to divorce are also somewhat generalized across states. Nevertheless, two types of divorce are common and these are absolute and limited. The former instance of divorce means getting a judicial termination of the marriage because of occurrence of marital transgression, or another statutory reason that is ante the marriage ceremony. The end result, according to divorce law, is that after an absolute divorce, the parties regain their single status.
The divorce law relating to limited divorces result in different consequences that change from state to state though in the main, this form of divorce means obtaining a separation decree, and the parties are no longer able to have the right to cohabitate, even though the marriage has not been dissolved, and their status remains unchanged.
There is also a no-fault divorce statutes enacted in many states which means that the divorce law does not require either party to furnish proof that the divorcee has done something to cause the divorce to take place. It may be sufficient under this divorce law for the court to dissolve the marriage when it feels the marriage is no longer feasible. Such a divorce law has led to there being considerable debate whether such a divorce law is indeed the cause or effect of the higher number of divorces taking place in the United States.
Nearly Half of All American Marriages May End in Divorce
Americans are more and more often going in for divorce, and it is believed that as many as half of all Americans will have undergone a divorce to end their marriages. This makes it necessary for them to understand the divorce law completely. Knowing what is allowed and what is not in the divorce laws of the land is certainly very important if you wish to have any success in this matter. There are differences in divorce laws from state to state, which makes it necessary for you to determine what the exact laws are that affect your particular case.
The laws relating to divorce are also somewhat generalized across states. Nevertheless, two types of divorce are common and these are absolute and limited. The former instance of divorce means getting a judicial termination of the marriage because of occurrence of marital transgression, or another statutory reason that is ante the marriage ceremony. The end result, according to divorce law, is that after an absolute divorce, the parties regain their single status.
The divorce law relating to limited divorces result in different consequences that change from state to state though in the main, this form of divorce means obtaining a separation decree, and the parties are no longer able to have the right to cohabitate, even though the marriage has not been dissolved, and their status remains unchanged.
There is also a no-fault divorce statutes enacted in many states which means that the divorce law does not require either party to furnish proof that the divorcee has done something to cause the divorce to take place. It may be sufficient under this divorce law for the court to dissolve the marriage when it feels the marriage is no longer feasible. Such a divorce law has led to there being considerable debate whether such a divorce law is indeed the cause or effect of the higher number of divorces taking place in the United States.
Wednesday, 21 April 2010
Divorce Grounds: Fault and No Fault
Divorce grounds are regulations set by each state that determines under what circumstances one party in a marriage can file for a dissolution of their marriage. There are two main types of divorce grounds; fault and no-fault.
A no-fault is the most common type of divorce grounds between the two. It does not require that either the husband or wife show fault, or that the spouse did something wrong for a divorce to be granted. It can be requested by either the husband or wife, despite objections by the spouse. It would be considered an “irreconcilable difference” if either the husband or wife did object, and would be justified divorce grounds for a no-fault divorce.
Various names given for divorce grounds in a no-fault, or legal terms for a couple not getting along are “incompatibility,” “irreconcilable differences,” or “irremediable breakdown of the marriage.” In some states, it is required that the couple not cohabitate for months or even years before a no-fault divorce is granted.
Divorce grounds established on fault, which means that the husband or wife showed wrongdoing on the part of the spouse can be sought in cases of:
Adultery
Cruelty or infliction of emotional or physical harm
Deserting the spouse for a length of time
Imprisonment for a number of years
Not disclosing, before marriage, the physical inability to have sexual intercourse
Divorce Grounds Differ in Various States
In 15 states, divorce grounds can only be sought as a no-fault divorce. The other states allow the spouse to file for either a fault divorce or a no-fault divorce. Reasons why a spouse may file for a fault rather than a no-fault divorce are:
Possibility of receiving a larger share of the marital property if wrongdoing is established
Possibility of receiving more alimony if wrongdoing is established
Not wanting to wait out the period of separation required by their state for a no-fault divorce
Although a spouse cannot prevent a no-fault divorce, it is possible to do so with a fault divorce by convincing the court that you are not guilty of wrongdoing. Rarely used defenses in a fault divorce are collusion, condonation, connivance, and provocation. Any defense used in a fault divorce grounds will eventually come to naught. Chances are that a court will eventually grant a divorce, due to strong public opinion against forcing a couple to remain married if one or both parties want out. It is also costly to forge a defense and money would be better spent on college funds for the children of the union than in fighting what will eventually be a losing battle.
A no-fault is the most common type of divorce grounds between the two. It does not require that either the husband or wife show fault, or that the spouse did something wrong for a divorce to be granted. It can be requested by either the husband or wife, despite objections by the spouse. It would be considered an “irreconcilable difference” if either the husband or wife did object, and would be justified divorce grounds for a no-fault divorce.
Various names given for divorce grounds in a no-fault, or legal terms for a couple not getting along are “incompatibility,” “irreconcilable differences,” or “irremediable breakdown of the marriage.” In some states, it is required that the couple not cohabitate for months or even years before a no-fault divorce is granted.
Divorce grounds established on fault, which means that the husband or wife showed wrongdoing on the part of the spouse can be sought in cases of:
Adultery
Cruelty or infliction of emotional or physical harm
Deserting the spouse for a length of time
Imprisonment for a number of years
Not disclosing, before marriage, the physical inability to have sexual intercourse
Divorce Grounds Differ in Various States
In 15 states, divorce grounds can only be sought as a no-fault divorce. The other states allow the spouse to file for either a fault divorce or a no-fault divorce. Reasons why a spouse may file for a fault rather than a no-fault divorce are:
Possibility of receiving a larger share of the marital property if wrongdoing is established
Possibility of receiving more alimony if wrongdoing is established
Not wanting to wait out the period of separation required by their state for a no-fault divorce
Although a spouse cannot prevent a no-fault divorce, it is possible to do so with a fault divorce by convincing the court that you are not guilty of wrongdoing. Rarely used defenses in a fault divorce are collusion, condonation, connivance, and provocation. Any defense used in a fault divorce grounds will eventually come to naught. Chances are that a court will eventually grant a divorce, due to strong public opinion against forcing a couple to remain married if one or both parties want out. It is also costly to forge a defense and money would be better spent on college funds for the children of the union than in fighting what will eventually be a losing battle.
Tuesday, 20 April 2010
Do it Yourself Divorce Forms: Good Idea or Not?
Divorces can be very expensive, especially when lawyers are involved. It is no wonder that many people prefer to purchase divorce forms at an office supply store or at one of many sites online and file their own divorce papers. This method of getting a divorce is certainly less expensive, and it works well when the divorcing couple is in agreement about most issues.
However, do it yourself divorce forms do not work in every situation. Under the following circumstances, it is better to forget about filling out divorce forms on your own and hire a lawyer. The expense will be well worth the headache it prevents.
The Divorce is Contested
In a world of no-fault divorces, it's very rare to see a divorce contested and far rarer to see it successfully contested. However, if your partner is fighting the divorce, he or she will probably refuse to sign divorce forms. In this situation, it is easier for both parties to get a lawyer and have the lawyers communicate with each other. This takes the emotion out of what can be a very upsetting experience. In the end, after talking with an attorney, your partner will probably ultimately agree to the divorce, but it's good to have someone to represent you in court just in case.
Child Custody or Child Support Are Contested
Kids suffer during a divorce as much or even more than their parents do. The last thing they need is to hear Mom and Dad fighting with each other as they attempt to get the divorce forms filled out. If there is disagreement concerning the children, both parties should seek attorneys. You may be referred to mediation, but ultimately if you and your spouse cannot agree, a judge will listen to witnesses called by your attorneys and make the final decision.
Money and Belongings Are Contested
Many couples are able to work out the financial aspect of the divorce without to many problems. Generally, each partner keeps what he or she brought to the marriage, and the "marital assets," those belongings that were accumulated during the marriage are either divided or sold with the resulting money evenly divided. However, it isn't always that easy. Suppose one spouse amassed a huge amount of credit card debt that the other spouse was not aware of. Or one spouse started his or her own business, became a millionaire, and argued that the other spouse had nothing to do with the business' financial success? These are cases that need to be presented by an attorney to a judge familiar with the issues.
A Large Amount of Money is Involved
Even though you may think you agree on every issue including the division of assets, it's a good idea to hire an attorney if there is a lot of money involved. The last thing you want to do is sign a form you don't understand and cheat yourself out of your fair share of assets.
Many couples every year successfully divorce with do it yourself divorce forms. Divorce forms provide an excellent option for people with few assets who are largely in agreement about the divorce. However, couples who disagree on key issues and couples who stand to lose a lot of money are probably better off hiring divorce attorneys.
However, do it yourself divorce forms do not work in every situation. Under the following circumstances, it is better to forget about filling out divorce forms on your own and hire a lawyer. The expense will be well worth the headache it prevents.
The Divorce is Contested
In a world of no-fault divorces, it's very rare to see a divorce contested and far rarer to see it successfully contested. However, if your partner is fighting the divorce, he or she will probably refuse to sign divorce forms. In this situation, it is easier for both parties to get a lawyer and have the lawyers communicate with each other. This takes the emotion out of what can be a very upsetting experience. In the end, after talking with an attorney, your partner will probably ultimately agree to the divorce, but it's good to have someone to represent you in court just in case.
Child Custody or Child Support Are Contested
Kids suffer during a divorce as much or even more than their parents do. The last thing they need is to hear Mom and Dad fighting with each other as they attempt to get the divorce forms filled out. If there is disagreement concerning the children, both parties should seek attorneys. You may be referred to mediation, but ultimately if you and your spouse cannot agree, a judge will listen to witnesses called by your attorneys and make the final decision.
Money and Belongings Are Contested
Many couples are able to work out the financial aspect of the divorce without to many problems. Generally, each partner keeps what he or she brought to the marriage, and the "marital assets," those belongings that were accumulated during the marriage are either divided or sold with the resulting money evenly divided. However, it isn't always that easy. Suppose one spouse amassed a huge amount of credit card debt that the other spouse was not aware of. Or one spouse started his or her own business, became a millionaire, and argued that the other spouse had nothing to do with the business' financial success? These are cases that need to be presented by an attorney to a judge familiar with the issues.
A Large Amount of Money is Involved
Even though you may think you agree on every issue including the division of assets, it's a good idea to hire an attorney if there is a lot of money involved. The last thing you want to do is sign a form you don't understand and cheat yourself out of your fair share of assets.
Many couples every year successfully divorce with do it yourself divorce forms. Divorce forms provide an excellent option for people with few assets who are largely in agreement about the divorce. However, couples who disagree on key issues and couples who stand to lose a lot of money are probably better off hiring divorce attorneys.
Monday, 19 April 2010
A Divorce Decree: What does it Mean?
For a divorce to be legal, a court must issue a formal divorce decree. This document summarizes the rights and responsibilities of both parties after the dissolution of their marriage, and contains information such as the terms agreed upon in the divorce, case number, and the date the divorce took place. A divorce decree should not be confused with a divorce record, which is all the pages filed in a divorce, and in some settlements can be over one hundred pages long.
The issues outlined in a divorce decree include:
Distribution of marital property
Custody, child support, and visitation if children resulted from the union
Alimony or spousal support if applicable
If an individual were to re-marry, change back to their maiden name, or remove an ex-spouse from bank accounts or other assets, a copy of the this document would be needed.
In order to obtain copies of a divorce decree, an individual can write or go to the Vital Statistics Office in the state or county where the divorce took place. If mailing a written request or going directly to the Vital Statistics Office, pertinent information needs to be on hand such as the date of divorce or annulment, city, county and state where the divorce took place, and the requestor’s driver’s license number and state.
If making out a written request, it is important to find out each state’s requirements for obtaining a copy of a divorce decree. To ensure that the request is filled and a copy of the divorce decree sent quickly, several steps should be followed.
The letter should be as brief as possible containing only necessary information.
All information should be typed or printed so that it is legible.
A self addressed stamped envelope needs to be provided.
The request needs to include the date, full name of both parties, date of divorce, the purpose for which the divorce decree is needed, the type of final decree, the requestor’s driver’s license number and state, and the requestor’s name, address and signature.
How Does a Divorce Decree Help Me?
In order for a divorce to be legally binding, a formal divorce decree is necessary. It contains all pertinent information regarding a divorce such as distribution of marital assets, child support, visitation, custody and alimony or spousal support. A copy of the divorce decree is needed to change back to one’s maiden name and to remove the former spouse from bank accounts and other assets. If copies are needed, they can be obtained from the Vital Statistics Office in the state or county where the divorce took place. Since each state’s requirements to obtain a copy of a divorce decree are slightly different, it is necessary to inquire about what is needed in the state where the divorce occurred.
The issues outlined in a divorce decree include:
Distribution of marital property
Custody, child support, and visitation if children resulted from the union
Alimony or spousal support if applicable
If an individual were to re-marry, change back to their maiden name, or remove an ex-spouse from bank accounts or other assets, a copy of the this document would be needed.
In order to obtain copies of a divorce decree, an individual can write or go to the Vital Statistics Office in the state or county where the divorce took place. If mailing a written request or going directly to the Vital Statistics Office, pertinent information needs to be on hand such as the date of divorce or annulment, city, county and state where the divorce took place, and the requestor’s driver’s license number and state.
If making out a written request, it is important to find out each state’s requirements for obtaining a copy of a divorce decree. To ensure that the request is filled and a copy of the divorce decree sent quickly, several steps should be followed.
The letter should be as brief as possible containing only necessary information.
All information should be typed or printed so that it is legible.
A self addressed stamped envelope needs to be provided.
The request needs to include the date, full name of both parties, date of divorce, the purpose for which the divorce decree is needed, the type of final decree, the requestor’s driver’s license number and state, and the requestor’s name, address and signature.
How Does a Divorce Decree Help Me?
In order for a divorce to be legally binding, a formal divorce decree is necessary. It contains all pertinent information regarding a divorce such as distribution of marital assets, child support, visitation, custody and alimony or spousal support. A copy of the divorce decree is needed to change back to one’s maiden name and to remove the former spouse from bank accounts and other assets. If copies are needed, they can be obtained from the Vital Statistics Office in the state or county where the divorce took place. Since each state’s requirements to obtain a copy of a divorce decree are slightly different, it is necessary to inquire about what is needed in the state where the divorce occurred.
Sunday, 18 April 2010
How Best To Deal with Divorce Court Proceedings
Your experience with a divorce court proceeding is bound to be intimidating as it involves passing over control of your divorce to a person of high standards with whom you will not be acquainted, the Judge. Control passes out of your hands and now a stranger will make the decisions that will directly impact you.
Be Prepared for What Is About To Transpire
When you are in involved in a divorce case that is being heard in a divorce court you will need to be prepared for all that will transpire. The first thing you should understand is that the Judge may not always make the right decision, which may either go your way, your spouse’s way or the way of the Judge. That means that you will only have a one in three chance of getting a favorable decision.
Once you are in the divorce court, it makes perfect sense to let the attorney do the talking and keep your own involvement to a minimum. You should also get as many issues resolved as is possible before you enter the divorce courtroom and always make sure that you address the Judge as “Your Honor”. It is also wise to thank the Judge after having spoken and being respectful will be to your advantage.
In the divorce court, it is also wise not to make comments or speak to the opponent in the presence of the Judge, and if you do have to make any negative or hostile remarks, do so outside the Court Room. If the Judge notices these things it will not be to your advantage. Dressing properly is also recommended and it should be in a manner that compliments the image your attorney would like you to portray, and so, if you consult with your attorney about how to dress, it will further your cause.
Whatever goes on in the divorce court should be taken down in the form of notes and you will be advantaged if you follow this course of action because often the attorney may be too busy to note down everything that transpires during your case hearing. You should also abstain from taking your children to the courtroom unless advised to do so by your attorney.
Before coming to the divorce court it is also a good idea for you to be prepared beforehand and be armed with as much information as is possible, and keep documentation as well as other relevant documents ready, since the more ammunition you have, the better will you be able to present your side of things.
Often the court proceedings may incur delays or otherwise are of long duration, which should require that you need something to fight off the boredom. Bringing along a novel, or something to read to the divorce court can also help to tide over the tedium of long waits in the divorce court. In these simple tips, you may find your visit to the divorce court fruitful as well as a happy occasion.
Be Prepared for What Is About To Transpire
When you are in involved in a divorce case that is being heard in a divorce court you will need to be prepared for all that will transpire. The first thing you should understand is that the Judge may not always make the right decision, which may either go your way, your spouse’s way or the way of the Judge. That means that you will only have a one in three chance of getting a favorable decision.
Once you are in the divorce court, it makes perfect sense to let the attorney do the talking and keep your own involvement to a minimum. You should also get as many issues resolved as is possible before you enter the divorce courtroom and always make sure that you address the Judge as “Your Honor”. It is also wise to thank the Judge after having spoken and being respectful will be to your advantage.
In the divorce court, it is also wise not to make comments or speak to the opponent in the presence of the Judge, and if you do have to make any negative or hostile remarks, do so outside the Court Room. If the Judge notices these things it will not be to your advantage. Dressing properly is also recommended and it should be in a manner that compliments the image your attorney would like you to portray, and so, if you consult with your attorney about how to dress, it will further your cause.
Whatever goes on in the divorce court should be taken down in the form of notes and you will be advantaged if you follow this course of action because often the attorney may be too busy to note down everything that transpires during your case hearing. You should also abstain from taking your children to the courtroom unless advised to do so by your attorney.
Before coming to the divorce court it is also a good idea for you to be prepared beforehand and be armed with as much information as is possible, and keep documentation as well as other relevant documents ready, since the more ammunition you have, the better will you be able to present your side of things.
Often the court proceedings may incur delays or otherwise are of long duration, which should require that you need something to fight off the boredom. Bringing along a novel, or something to read to the divorce court can also help to tide over the tedium of long waits in the divorce court. In these simple tips, you may find your visit to the divorce court fruitful as well as a happy occasion.
Saturday, 17 April 2010
Divorce and Effect: Its Emotional, Physical, Financial and Societal Impact
Divorce is possibly one of the most heart wrenching events an individual must endure. Considering that 40% of marriages in the United States alone end in divorce, divorce and effect is a sad reality for millions of individuals.
Divorce and effect touches many areas of a person’s life, such as emotional, financial, and physical. The financial aspect of divorce and effect can be staggering. Divorce leads to two households existing on one income. When children are involved, even with child support, financial hardships usually arise. Women more often than men are granted custody of the children after a divorce. In some instances, this reduces their ability to secure high-paying employment.
Divorce and effect may increase financial hardship when child support is not received, or the non-custodial parent does not feel that they have an obligation toward their children. The government does provide a welfare system for divorced parents and their dependent children; however, this shows even more the consequences of divorce and effect on the society as a whole.
Divorce and its Effect on the Whole Family
The grieving process that follows any loss can be viewed in a divorce as well. The dissolution of a marriage is a death of sorts and those going through a divorce grieve. Depression and anxiety often follow on the heels of a divorce and affect all parties involved, including the children of the union.
The physical implications of divorce and effect are somewhat controversial. There have been studies that have shown a positive correlation between divorce and incidence rates of stroke, cancer, parasitic diseases, acute infectious diseases, and digestive and respiratory illnesses. It was even shown that married cancer patients are more likely to recover than cancer patients who were divorced. Overall, divorced men have lower life expectancies than married men. Divorce and effect does have a physical impact, although to what extent is hotly debated.
Much of the research on divorce and effect has centered on the children of divorce. When parents decide to divorce, the effects on their children are numerous. Just a few examples of what the research has discovered are:
The best indicator of teen suicide is parental divorce and living in a single parent home.
College attendance is 60% lower for children of divorce than those from intact homes.
In ratings by parents and teachers on peer relationships, hostility toward adults, withdrawal, and aggression, children whose parents were divorced performed more poorly than children from homes that consisted of both parents.
Children of divorce have a higher incidence of depression.
Divorce and effect touches every area of a couple’s life, including their children. Its effects leave an imprint emotionally, physically and financially.
Divorce and effect touches many areas of a person’s life, such as emotional, financial, and physical. The financial aspect of divorce and effect can be staggering. Divorce leads to two households existing on one income. When children are involved, even with child support, financial hardships usually arise. Women more often than men are granted custody of the children after a divorce. In some instances, this reduces their ability to secure high-paying employment.
Divorce and effect may increase financial hardship when child support is not received, or the non-custodial parent does not feel that they have an obligation toward their children. The government does provide a welfare system for divorced parents and their dependent children; however, this shows even more the consequences of divorce and effect on the society as a whole.
Divorce and its Effect on the Whole Family
The grieving process that follows any loss can be viewed in a divorce as well. The dissolution of a marriage is a death of sorts and those going through a divorce grieve. Depression and anxiety often follow on the heels of a divorce and affect all parties involved, including the children of the union.
The physical implications of divorce and effect are somewhat controversial. There have been studies that have shown a positive correlation between divorce and incidence rates of stroke, cancer, parasitic diseases, acute infectious diseases, and digestive and respiratory illnesses. It was even shown that married cancer patients are more likely to recover than cancer patients who were divorced. Overall, divorced men have lower life expectancies than married men. Divorce and effect does have a physical impact, although to what extent is hotly debated.
Much of the research on divorce and effect has centered on the children of divorce. When parents decide to divorce, the effects on their children are numerous. Just a few examples of what the research has discovered are:
The best indicator of teen suicide is parental divorce and living in a single parent home.
College attendance is 60% lower for children of divorce than those from intact homes.
In ratings by parents and teachers on peer relationships, hostility toward adults, withdrawal, and aggression, children whose parents were divorced performed more poorly than children from homes that consisted of both parents.
Children of divorce have a higher incidence of depression.
Divorce and effect touches every area of a couple’s life, including their children. Its effects leave an imprint emotionally, physically and financially.
Friday, 16 April 2010
Do You Really need Divorce Advice?
Every person and organization claims to have relevant advice on divorce for you, but this is not always the truth. Divorce is a very personal event. Attempts to provide individual advice on divorce such as whether divorce is the right course of action need to be considered carefully, with plenty of discernment. This is important, because each person has his own individual belief system, financial situation, hopes for their future, and aspirations for any children associated with the marriage or other legal partnership. Divorce advice is usually cheap, and that is how it should be valued unless it is qualified for your personal situation.
Obtaining Good Advice
Good divorce advice is often mistaken with legal advice, but good advice is that which actually pertains to your particular situation. Good advice can be obtained from those who have already gone through the process and have a similar situation to yours. Good advice on divorce does not come from Doctor Phil on the TV. As with most purveyors of advice, TV personalities start from a well understood set of core principles, and then put you in the proverbial box with a standard label. This model is also used by supposed clairvoyants when they describe your future. Divorce advice should not be obtained from a clairvoyant.
Good divorce advice is rarely forthcoming from your family members. Many of them have specific reasons for their advice that can be self-serving. Many of them may even prefer the best interests of your spouse to yours. Sometimes mothers and fathers are claimed to be the primary source of marital stress as they compete for the attention of the spouse. Divorce advice from them is obviously somewhat tainted.
Guidance for Your Life
The best advice is to do what is right for your situation, by examining the current situation and making realistic guesses about the future. Your own ability to ask the right questions will provide the appropriate advice on divorce. Seeking counsel is important in this matter; however, only by personal assessment of your information can you determine the right course for yourself. Of course there are exceptions. Some people are not capable of analyzing the advice they have been given or need the advice to be proscriptive and definitive. In such cases, it is probably better for these people to be in the hands of the justice system quickly, and for their divorce advice to be provided by those who can make objective decisions as to the welfare and future of all parties involved.
Obtaining Good Advice
Good divorce advice is often mistaken with legal advice, but good advice is that which actually pertains to your particular situation. Good advice can be obtained from those who have already gone through the process and have a similar situation to yours. Good advice on divorce does not come from Doctor Phil on the TV. As with most purveyors of advice, TV personalities start from a well understood set of core principles, and then put you in the proverbial box with a standard label. This model is also used by supposed clairvoyants when they describe your future. Divorce advice should not be obtained from a clairvoyant.
Good divorce advice is rarely forthcoming from your family members. Many of them have specific reasons for their advice that can be self-serving. Many of them may even prefer the best interests of your spouse to yours. Sometimes mothers and fathers are claimed to be the primary source of marital stress as they compete for the attention of the spouse. Divorce advice from them is obviously somewhat tainted.
Guidance for Your Life
The best advice is to do what is right for your situation, by examining the current situation and making realistic guesses about the future. Your own ability to ask the right questions will provide the appropriate advice on divorce. Seeking counsel is important in this matter; however, only by personal assessment of your information can you determine the right course for yourself. Of course there are exceptions. Some people are not capable of analyzing the advice they have been given or need the advice to be proscriptive and definitive. In such cases, it is probably better for these people to be in the hands of the justice system quickly, and for their divorce advice to be provided by those who can make objective decisions as to the welfare and future of all parties involved.
Thursday, 15 April 2010
Fault And No-Fault Divorces
Divorce is a legal process in which one or both parties in a marriage can ask to have their marriage contract voided. There are a number of reasons why individuals may choose to obtain a divorce. Some of these reasons could include infidelity, irreconcilable differences, physical or mental cruelty, incarceration, etc.
Sometimes divorces can be accomplished in a very civil manner, while other divorces maybe very mean-spirited and vengeful. In addition, the accumulated assets of the divorcing couples are divided between the two individuals. Complicating factors could include custody battles and visitation rights of children born from the marriage.
Therefore, all of these variables have caused some court systems to embrace no-fault divorces. Knowing the difference between fault and no-fault divorce is an important differentiation to understand if considering divorce or if involved in divorce court proceedings.
What Is No-Fault Divorce?
No-fault divorce is a legal proceeding that results in the marriage between two individuals being terminated. This termination of the marriage can be initiated by either marriage partner.
In addition, this dissolution of the marital bonds can be pursued by the person requesting the divorce without having to give proof or evidence of any wrongdoing on the part of the other individual. Often the reasons that are stated, when requesting a divorce, can include such phrases as irreconcilable differences or for reasons of incompatibility.
Also, the divorce can be pursued by either member of the marriage despite any opposition raised by the other marital partner.
Fault Divorce
A fault divorce is also a legal proceeding that culminates in the dissolution of the marriage. However, a fault divorce requires the individual who is petitioning for a divorce to provide a reason for the request.
Generally, this request must be at least one recognized reason that allows the area of legal jurisdiction to grant that request for divorce. Those reasons could include adultery, mental cruelty, physical assault, etc.
However, because of the rising rate of divorces and the impact that divorce has on children, many courts are requiring that there be a period of time involved before fault divorce can be obtained. In addition, many legal systems are mandating that children receive counseling prior to the granting of a divorce.
One of the key advantages to obtaining a divorce under a fault divorce system is that if fault can be shown it may affect the dispersing of the assets of the divorcing couple. If, for example, a husband was found to be unfaithful, a greater percentage of the assets could be awarded to the wife if that infidelity could be proven.
Sometimes divorces can be accomplished in a very civil manner, while other divorces maybe very mean-spirited and vengeful. In addition, the accumulated assets of the divorcing couples are divided between the two individuals. Complicating factors could include custody battles and visitation rights of children born from the marriage.
Therefore, all of these variables have caused some court systems to embrace no-fault divorces. Knowing the difference between fault and no-fault divorce is an important differentiation to understand if considering divorce or if involved in divorce court proceedings.
What Is No-Fault Divorce?
No-fault divorce is a legal proceeding that results in the marriage between two individuals being terminated. This termination of the marriage can be initiated by either marriage partner.
In addition, this dissolution of the marital bonds can be pursued by the person requesting the divorce without having to give proof or evidence of any wrongdoing on the part of the other individual. Often the reasons that are stated, when requesting a divorce, can include such phrases as irreconcilable differences or for reasons of incompatibility.
Also, the divorce can be pursued by either member of the marriage despite any opposition raised by the other marital partner.
Fault Divorce
A fault divorce is also a legal proceeding that culminates in the dissolution of the marriage. However, a fault divorce requires the individual who is petitioning for a divorce to provide a reason for the request.
Generally, this request must be at least one recognized reason that allows the area of legal jurisdiction to grant that request for divorce. Those reasons could include adultery, mental cruelty, physical assault, etc.
However, because of the rising rate of divorces and the impact that divorce has on children, many courts are requiring that there be a period of time involved before fault divorce can be obtained. In addition, many legal systems are mandating that children receive counseling prior to the granting of a divorce.
One of the key advantages to obtaining a divorce under a fault divorce system is that if fault can be shown it may affect the dispersing of the assets of the divorcing couple. If, for example, a husband was found to be unfaithful, a greater percentage of the assets could be awarded to the wife if that infidelity could be proven.
Wednesday, 14 April 2010
Get Divorce Solutions through Easy Divorce Research
Divorce means the end of a marriage, which can occur for a variety of reasons. Divorce is painful for the one requesting it because the fact still remains that you once loved your partner and there are memories and events that you want to remember fondly. It is painful for the spouse who suddenly has his world torn apart by the realization that life as he has known it will soon be over. The positive side of divorce is that there are things that you can do to make the process easier on everyone.
Online Divorce Research
In order to make a divorce fast and easy, you need to do a little divorce research of your own. One source of this research is online where you will be able to access a variety of websites that will provide you with free divorce forms and answers to common questions on the subject. Every state has different rules and regulations, and you need to be aware of what they are before applying for a divorce, particularly if you choose not to hire a lawyer. Through divorce research on the Internet, you can find inexpensive and quick divorces that are generally available when there are no children involved, and when you agree to divide your assets without the help of the court.
Using Divorce Research Materials for your Benefit
Even when you consider hiring lawyers for representation in a divorce, it is still recommended that you do some divorce research on your own to familiarize yourself with the rules and regulations that apply in your case. Even though there are general regulations for divorce that apply in all states, there are also cases that are judged separately depending on individual needs and state requirements. If you have a special case where the custody of the children is in question or you cannot agree on the division of the property, it is in your benefit to do divorce research and learn what type of laws can and will apply to your case.
Helpful Tips
The best place for any type of divorce research is the Internet where there is a plethora of free divorce advice that you can access to answer questions on matters that concern you. There are also many books that are dedicated to divorce where you can find additional answers to your questions. Divorce research will not only provide you with answers on how to deal with your divorce but also on how to recover from it and start living your life again.
Online Divorce Research
In order to make a divorce fast and easy, you need to do a little divorce research of your own. One source of this research is online where you will be able to access a variety of websites that will provide you with free divorce forms and answers to common questions on the subject. Every state has different rules and regulations, and you need to be aware of what they are before applying for a divorce, particularly if you choose not to hire a lawyer. Through divorce research on the Internet, you can find inexpensive and quick divorces that are generally available when there are no children involved, and when you agree to divide your assets without the help of the court.
Using Divorce Research Materials for your Benefit
Even when you consider hiring lawyers for representation in a divorce, it is still recommended that you do some divorce research on your own to familiarize yourself with the rules and regulations that apply in your case. Even though there are general regulations for divorce that apply in all states, there are also cases that are judged separately depending on individual needs and state requirements. If you have a special case where the custody of the children is in question or you cannot agree on the division of the property, it is in your benefit to do divorce research and learn what type of laws can and will apply to your case.
Helpful Tips
The best place for any type of divorce research is the Internet where there is a plethora of free divorce advice that you can access to answer questions on matters that concern you. There are also many books that are dedicated to divorce where you can find additional answers to your questions. Divorce research will not only provide you with answers on how to deal with your divorce but also on how to recover from it and start living your life again.
Tuesday, 13 April 2010
The Process of Divorce Recovery
Divorce is never pleasant, but unfortunately it happens on a fairly regular basis in our society today. Divorce can be due to a variety of reasons that usually involves one or both partners no longer able to commit to the marriage and life together under the same roof. A divorce can drain one emotionally and financially, and even brings some people to the brink of bankruptcy or an emotional breakdown. For this reason, it is important to plan your divorce recovery as a part of the regular divorce proceedings.
Acknowledging your Feelings
Often a person will ignore his feelings and thoughts about a marital separation, especially if the divorce was forced upon him by an unfaithful or abusive partner. Unfortunately, stuffing feelings is not going to help you recover from your experience. A good way to start divorce recovery is to acknowledge your feelings whatever they are; anger, sadness or even resentment for your partner and the situation in which you find yourself. If you don’t want to speak about the way you feel to anyone close to you, you can seek professional help from a psychiatrist or psychologist as well.
Take Responsibility
A good step on the way to divorce recovery is to take responsibility of the situation. Sometimes a person prefers to shift the blame to his partner, making the spouse the guilty party in the divorce. It is extremely easy to blame the other but just as it takes two to tango; it often takes two to create a divorce situation. It is helpful to acknowledge and deal with your own part in the dissolution of your marriage.
Peace will Follow Closure
It can be helpful to meet with your partner after the divorce proceedings are completed, in order to speak amicably to one another and find closure to begin the divorce recovery process. This type of amicable relationship with your ex is especially recommended if you have children, because your pain and resentment will show in the way you talk to your children about their other parent. It may not be easy, but resolution with one another can bring peace to everyone in the situation.
Helpful Tips
Divorce recovery cannot be rushed, so give yourself time to recover from the pain of the process and look toward the future. One way to do this is to surround yourself with people you enjoy like family and friends. While there is no magic method to divorce recovery, time is the best healer.
Acknowledging your Feelings
Often a person will ignore his feelings and thoughts about a marital separation, especially if the divorce was forced upon him by an unfaithful or abusive partner. Unfortunately, stuffing feelings is not going to help you recover from your experience. A good way to start divorce recovery is to acknowledge your feelings whatever they are; anger, sadness or even resentment for your partner and the situation in which you find yourself. If you don’t want to speak about the way you feel to anyone close to you, you can seek professional help from a psychiatrist or psychologist as well.
Take Responsibility
A good step on the way to divorce recovery is to take responsibility of the situation. Sometimes a person prefers to shift the blame to his partner, making the spouse the guilty party in the divorce. It is extremely easy to blame the other but just as it takes two to tango; it often takes two to create a divorce situation. It is helpful to acknowledge and deal with your own part in the dissolution of your marriage.
Peace will Follow Closure
It can be helpful to meet with your partner after the divorce proceedings are completed, in order to speak amicably to one another and find closure to begin the divorce recovery process. This type of amicable relationship with your ex is especially recommended if you have children, because your pain and resentment will show in the way you talk to your children about their other parent. It may not be easy, but resolution with one another can bring peace to everyone in the situation.
Helpful Tips
Divorce recovery cannot be rushed, so give yourself time to recover from the pain of the process and look toward the future. One way to do this is to surround yourself with people you enjoy like family and friends. While there is no magic method to divorce recovery, time is the best healer.
Monday, 12 April 2010
Essential Divorce Questions to Ask your Lawyer
The dissolution of a marriage done legally is known as divorce, and it involves a series of laws and regulations that are different from state to state as well as from case to case. The process can vary depending on the amount of time you were married, if you have children and if you are employed. It is a common practice to hire a lawyer for legal advice and assistance with the process. However, people often don’t ask their lawyers the right divorce questions, and end up wasting time and money in the process.
Get the Right Representation for a Smooth and Fast Divorce
Divorces are never pleasant, especially when you have children involved. Depending on the lawyer you choose, it can be a fast and smooth divorce or it can become a chaotic and traumatic event. Here are some divorce questions you should ask a prospective lawyer before appointing him to represent you in your divorce. The first divorce question you need to ask your lawyer is about his experience in the field and about the divorce cases he has worked on that were similar to your own situation.
The next divorce questions should be how much he will charge for the procedure and how long the process might take. Keep in mind that the lawyer may not be able to give you an exact time frame, since a hearing date will depend on how busy the court is at that particular time of the year. Even if you are fully satisfied with what this lawyer had to say, it is a good idea to meet with at least one other divorce lawyer before you make your decision on which one should represent you.
Once you have hired a lawyer, make sure that he is available when you contact him, and that he keeps you updated on the proceedings of the divorce. This will give you an opportunity to ask any other divorce questions you may have as the proceedings move along.
Online Resources
It always helps to keep yourself involved in your own divorce matters since you are the person who will be directly affected by the process. You can get answers to many of your divorce questions from independent online resources as well. There are a few websites that will provide you free legal advice and some will charge a minimal fee, but it is always advantageous to have a second and even third opinion when possible.
Get the Right Representation for a Smooth and Fast Divorce
Divorces are never pleasant, especially when you have children involved. Depending on the lawyer you choose, it can be a fast and smooth divorce or it can become a chaotic and traumatic event. Here are some divorce questions you should ask a prospective lawyer before appointing him to represent you in your divorce. The first divorce question you need to ask your lawyer is about his experience in the field and about the divorce cases he has worked on that were similar to your own situation.
The next divorce questions should be how much he will charge for the procedure and how long the process might take. Keep in mind that the lawyer may not be able to give you an exact time frame, since a hearing date will depend on how busy the court is at that particular time of the year. Even if you are fully satisfied with what this lawyer had to say, it is a good idea to meet with at least one other divorce lawyer before you make your decision on which one should represent you.
Once you have hired a lawyer, make sure that he is available when you contact him, and that he keeps you updated on the proceedings of the divorce. This will give you an opportunity to ask any other divorce questions you may have as the proceedings move along.
Online Resources
It always helps to keep yourself involved in your own divorce matters since you are the person who will be directly affected by the process. You can get answers to many of your divorce questions from independent online resources as well. There are a few websites that will provide you free legal advice and some will charge a minimal fee, but it is always advantageous to have a second and even third opinion when possible.
Sunday, 11 April 2010
Guide to Fast and Easy Divorce Process
Divorces can be messy, long and extremely painful both financially and emotionally. If you and your spouse have decided to separate, it is important for both of you to find the fastest and easiest divorce process possible to minimize the damages. Here are a few ways to speed up your divorce process and start the healing and recovery process.
Online Divorce
Many couples that agree mutually on the divorce and how they should divide their belongings often opt for the DIY divorce process, which can save you both time and money. You can go online to find free divorce application forms as well as all the laws and regulations that apply in the state you reside. You can even book the next available hearing in the court closest to you where your divorce will be settled.
Every divorce process is different from the next, depending on each case and the parties involved. If you have any specific questions or matters that need to be resolved prior to the divorce, you can find free divorce advice online as well that will keep you up to date on the laws and regulations that govern divorce in your state.
A Painless Divorce Process
A divorce process can be as painful as you choose to make it, so select the most efficient process that will cause the least amount of difficulty. This is especially important if you have children involved in the separation. Everyone is affected in a divorce process and the longer the process drags on, the more painful and expensive it will become.
Find a common ground with your partner as far as dividing the assets is concerned, so that you will not have to wait for expert evaluations and divisions done by the court. Discuss how you want to divide the time with your children, keeping in mind the best interest of the kids as your primary concern. It is important for the children to see that the parents get along even if they are divorcing, since that will demonstrate to them how to negotiate and cooperate with others.
Helpful Tip
A divorce process is especially messy when it comes to dividing large assets like the house that you own. In a worst-case scenario, the house will be sold and the money divided between the partners so each can start fresh. A divorce is the end of a marriage, and often people look at it as the end of a part in their life, but it is also a beginning of sorts. Try and make the divorce process as easy and fast as possible in order to let go of the past and start living your life again.
Online Divorce
Many couples that agree mutually on the divorce and how they should divide their belongings often opt for the DIY divorce process, which can save you both time and money. You can go online to find free divorce application forms as well as all the laws and regulations that apply in the state you reside. You can even book the next available hearing in the court closest to you where your divorce will be settled.
Every divorce process is different from the next, depending on each case and the parties involved. If you have any specific questions or matters that need to be resolved prior to the divorce, you can find free divorce advice online as well that will keep you up to date on the laws and regulations that govern divorce in your state.
A Painless Divorce Process
A divorce process can be as painful as you choose to make it, so select the most efficient process that will cause the least amount of difficulty. This is especially important if you have children involved in the separation. Everyone is affected in a divorce process and the longer the process drags on, the more painful and expensive it will become.
Find a common ground with your partner as far as dividing the assets is concerned, so that you will not have to wait for expert evaluations and divisions done by the court. Discuss how you want to divide the time with your children, keeping in mind the best interest of the kids as your primary concern. It is important for the children to see that the parents get along even if they are divorcing, since that will demonstrate to them how to negotiate and cooperate with others.
Helpful Tip
A divorce process is especially messy when it comes to dividing large assets like the house that you own. In a worst-case scenario, the house will be sold and the money divided between the partners so each can start fresh. A divorce is the end of a marriage, and often people look at it as the end of a part in their life, but it is also a beginning of sorts. Try and make the divorce process as easy and fast as possible in order to let go of the past and start living your life again.
Saturday, 10 April 2010
Children of Divorce: The Sad Truth
With the divorce rate in the United States at 40%, hundreds of thousands, if not millions of children are affected by the decision of their parents to end their marriage. Over several decades, much research has been performed in the area of children of divorce. Unfortunately, much of this research shows the negative impact divorce has on these children. It cannot be disputed that in some circumstances, such as physical, emotional or sexual abuse of either the spouse or child, that it would be in the child’s best interest for his parents to divorce. However, it is estimated that only 30% of marriages end under these circumstances.
The children of divorce have been shown to suffer many negative effects that stem from their parent’s decision to end their marriage. Listed below, are just a few examples of what years of research has shown to be the effects on the children of divorce.
Teen suicide can occur for various reasons; however, the single best indicator is divorce and living in a single parent home.
College attendance is 60% lower for children of divorce than those of intact families.
Children of divorce have lower rates of graduation from high school and college.
There is a higher incidence of depression in children of divorce.
After a divorce, children tend to be more emotionally distant from both parents.
Children of divorce drop out of school at twice the rate as those from intact homes.
The fear of being rejected by their peers is twice as likely to occur among adolescents whose parents are divorced.
Children of divorce perform more poorly in ratings by parents and teachers on peer relationships, anxiety, withdrawal, aggression and hostility toward adults as those children from intact families.
Help For Children of Divorce
It is no secret that marriage takes work. Most marriages are salvageable when both parties make a concentrated effort to iron out their differences. If children resulted from the union, then this should be an additional incentive to stay in the marriage if at all possible. Open communication, marriage counseling, and taking time to reconnect, are just some of the avenues that can be explored to make the marital relationship mutually satisfying.
If a divorce is inevitable or has already occurred, than it is important to ease the children of divorce through the transition to a single-family home. If possible, both parents should remain involved in their children’s lives and be aware of the possible effects that divorce might have on the children. Working together, both parents can help to ensure the long term well-being of their children.
The children of divorce have been shown to suffer many negative effects that stem from their parent’s decision to end their marriage. Listed below, are just a few examples of what years of research has shown to be the effects on the children of divorce.
Teen suicide can occur for various reasons; however, the single best indicator is divorce and living in a single parent home.
College attendance is 60% lower for children of divorce than those of intact families.
Children of divorce have lower rates of graduation from high school and college.
There is a higher incidence of depression in children of divorce.
After a divorce, children tend to be more emotionally distant from both parents.
Children of divorce drop out of school at twice the rate as those from intact homes.
The fear of being rejected by their peers is twice as likely to occur among adolescents whose parents are divorced.
Children of divorce perform more poorly in ratings by parents and teachers on peer relationships, anxiety, withdrawal, aggression and hostility toward adults as those children from intact families.
Help For Children of Divorce
It is no secret that marriage takes work. Most marriages are salvageable when both parties make a concentrated effort to iron out their differences. If children resulted from the union, then this should be an additional incentive to stay in the marriage if at all possible. Open communication, marriage counseling, and taking time to reconnect, are just some of the avenues that can be explored to make the marital relationship mutually satisfying.
If a divorce is inevitable or has already occurred, than it is important to ease the children of divorce through the transition to a single-family home. If possible, both parents should remain involved in their children’s lives and be aware of the possible effects that divorce might have on the children. Working together, both parents can help to ensure the long term well-being of their children.
Friday, 9 April 2010
Coping With Divorce as the Non-Custodial Parent
Most people experience divorce as a very painful time in their lives. Not only have they lost their life partner, but they have also lost all the dreams and hopes they invested in the relationship. But perhaps the most painful blow of all is losing physical custody of one's children. The pain can be so intense that some non-custodial parents avoid visiting and having contact with their children.
Of course, this is often the least constructive approach you could possibly take. Children have a right to know and develop relationships with both their parents, not just the one they happen to live with. This article provides a few tips for coping with divorce if you are the non-custodial parent.
Coping With Divorce #1: Get the Court to Set up a Visitation Schedule and Keep It
Will it be awkward seeing your ex-spouse every weekend when you come to pick up the kids? Sure. But take a deep breath, stay calm, and focus on the matter at hand. If you sense an explosion building, offer to wait in the car until the kids are ready to go.
Coping With Divorce #2: Keep Your Promises
If a client called and asked you to lunch, you wouldn't agree unless you were sure you could make it, would you? Your kids are more important than any of your business clients. Thus, if your child wants to do something special with you, like attend a ball game or spend a weekend at a daddy-daughter day camp, make sure you have the time free and that it is all right with your spouse. If you make a promise and then let your child down, the relationship will suffer for it.
Coping With Divorce #3: Don't Use Your Child as a Spy
It is natural for you to want to know what is going on with your ex-spouse. However, while wanting this information is understandable, pumping your kids for information is not the way to satisfy your inquiring mind. If your child brings the subject up, that is a different story, of course. Just listen politely to the information and then change the subject when the opportunity to arises.
Coping With Divorce #4: If you can't Say Something Good…
Tempting as it may be, don't talk down your ex-spouse when conversing with your kids.
Children sometimes take an active role in this he-said-she-said process, feeling important carrying tales to grownups. They feel extra important if their story gets a strong response. ("That little…I can't believe she said that. Well, you can just tell her…!").
Be smart and take the positive attention away. To any story that starts out, "Dad said….," respond with a vague smile and a disinterested, "Oh, did he really? Tuna would be good for lunch, don't you think?"
Coping With Divorce #5: Get Support
All of the advice in this article is far more easily said than done. You may find it helps to join a support group of other non-custodial parents with whom you can share your laughter and heartaches.
Of course, this is often the least constructive approach you could possibly take. Children have a right to know and develop relationships with both their parents, not just the one they happen to live with. This article provides a few tips for coping with divorce if you are the non-custodial parent.
Coping With Divorce #1: Get the Court to Set up a Visitation Schedule and Keep It
Will it be awkward seeing your ex-spouse every weekend when you come to pick up the kids? Sure. But take a deep breath, stay calm, and focus on the matter at hand. If you sense an explosion building, offer to wait in the car until the kids are ready to go.
Coping With Divorce #2: Keep Your Promises
If a client called and asked you to lunch, you wouldn't agree unless you were sure you could make it, would you? Your kids are more important than any of your business clients. Thus, if your child wants to do something special with you, like attend a ball game or spend a weekend at a daddy-daughter day camp, make sure you have the time free and that it is all right with your spouse. If you make a promise and then let your child down, the relationship will suffer for it.
Coping With Divorce #3: Don't Use Your Child as a Spy
It is natural for you to want to know what is going on with your ex-spouse. However, while wanting this information is understandable, pumping your kids for information is not the way to satisfy your inquiring mind. If your child brings the subject up, that is a different story, of course. Just listen politely to the information and then change the subject when the opportunity to arises.
Coping With Divorce #4: If you can't Say Something Good…
Tempting as it may be, don't talk down your ex-spouse when conversing with your kids.
Children sometimes take an active role in this he-said-she-said process, feeling important carrying tales to grownups. They feel extra important if their story gets a strong response. ("That little…I can't believe she said that. Well, you can just tell her…!").
Be smart and take the positive attention away. To any story that starts out, "Dad said….," respond with a vague smile and a disinterested, "Oh, did he really? Tuna would be good for lunch, don't you think?"
Coping With Divorce #5: Get Support
All of the advice in this article is far more easily said than done. You may find it helps to join a support group of other non-custodial parents with whom you can share your laughter and heartaches.
Thursday, 8 April 2010
Easing The Pain Of Divorce For Your Children
Francis can still recall the heartache she felt watching her four year old son Adam rip apart his peanut butter sandwich before bursting into tears and running into his room. Francis was in the middle of a mildly unpleasant divorce, but did not believe (until that day) that her son had been affected.
Regardless of how ugly or amicable the divorce, any children involved are going to be touched by it. Many couples attempt to “hang in there” and work on the problems in order to spare their sons and daughters the pain of a broken family. But sometimes there are not enough band-aids and rolls of duct tape in the world to mend the tears. Parents are wise to prepare their children for a divorce with family discussions, and possibly even a group therapy visit(s).
Hugs Are Not Just For Teddy Bears
It is hopeful that certain divorce details involving children can be worked out with the need for judicial intervention. Many parents agree to shared custody arrangements, with either the mother or father being the custodial parent; this is with whom children live with on a daily basis. Travel and distance can be a wrench in the wheel, and may require the court to step in and give some direction to the proceedings.
What does divorce do to children? Is therapy always needed? Is the damage permanent? Children are incredibly resilient, not only with bumps and scrapes but also with emotional wounds as well. They tend to heal faster than adults in all areas. Therapy, if possible, may be a very beneficial experience. Kids sometimes find talking to a counselor easier than a parent or relative. They may not feel pressured to “protect” their loved ones by holding back thoughts and revelations.
If a private counselor or therapist is not an option, consider contacting your child’s school and ask to speak to the on staff counselor. They are employed for just these types of situations, and will have more access and opportunity to talk to your child or children about the divorce during school hours. This does not have to be an overwhelmingly traumatic experience. It is possible to still make some decent lemonade.
Is there anything you can do at home to help your children handle the divorce and all the changes that will follow? Do no underestimate the power and reassurance of a hug. Whether they respond or not, your children will want that extra affection during this time. They need to know that despite everything else that is being turned about, your love for them is steadfast.
Regardless of how ugly or amicable the divorce, any children involved are going to be touched by it. Many couples attempt to “hang in there” and work on the problems in order to spare their sons and daughters the pain of a broken family. But sometimes there are not enough band-aids and rolls of duct tape in the world to mend the tears. Parents are wise to prepare their children for a divorce with family discussions, and possibly even a group therapy visit(s).
Hugs Are Not Just For Teddy Bears
It is hopeful that certain divorce details involving children can be worked out with the need for judicial intervention. Many parents agree to shared custody arrangements, with either the mother or father being the custodial parent; this is with whom children live with on a daily basis. Travel and distance can be a wrench in the wheel, and may require the court to step in and give some direction to the proceedings.
What does divorce do to children? Is therapy always needed? Is the damage permanent? Children are incredibly resilient, not only with bumps and scrapes but also with emotional wounds as well. They tend to heal faster than adults in all areas. Therapy, if possible, may be a very beneficial experience. Kids sometimes find talking to a counselor easier than a parent or relative. They may not feel pressured to “protect” their loved ones by holding back thoughts and revelations.
If a private counselor or therapist is not an option, consider contacting your child’s school and ask to speak to the on staff counselor. They are employed for just these types of situations, and will have more access and opportunity to talk to your child or children about the divorce during school hours. This does not have to be an overwhelmingly traumatic experience. It is possible to still make some decent lemonade.
Is there anything you can do at home to help your children handle the divorce and all the changes that will follow? Do no underestimate the power and reassurance of a hug. Whether they respond or not, your children will want that extra affection during this time. They need to know that despite everything else that is being turned about, your love for them is steadfast.
Wednesday, 7 April 2010
Causes of Divorce: The Importance of Communication, Compromise and Commitment
The causes of divorce are as numerous as the individuals who say “I Do”. There are no real statistics on the most common reasons why marriages fail, as vital statistic forms that are filed when a divorce occurs rarely state the actual causes of divorce.
Surveys have been distributed to experienced divorce lawyers to uncover some of the most common reasons stated for the dissolution of a marriage. The reasons most often listed as the causes of divorce are poor communication, financial difficulties, lack of commitment to the union, dramatic priority changes, and infidelity. Other factors play a role in the causes of divorce, but they are not as common. These reasons are unmet needs, addiction and substance abuse, physical, sexual and emotional abuse and absence of conflict resolution skills.
Most likely, the issues that drew either party to seek the services of a divorce lawyer could be linked to the breakdown in one or all of the areas that ensure that a marriage will last. Marriages are built or broken on their ability to adhere to the three basic principles of communication, compromise and commitment.
How Can the Causes of Divorce be Avoided?
Communication is the backbone of a stable marital relationship. It is not only important to communicate, but to know how to do it effectively. Causes of divorce, such as poor communication, infidelity and financial difficulties could be addressed if both parties spent time talking and listening to their significant other. Unfortunately, talking with one’s spouse is often low on the list of priorities with the demands of home, children and work. Todays fast pace lifestyle will eventually take its toll, and the marriage is usually the first to suffer.
Many causes of divorce can be linked to a lack of compromise on the part of both parties. When one partner in a marriage continually overrides the desires of the partner, it will eventually breed resentment. Marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship. Each person needs to feel that their opinions, feelings, needs and wants are just as important as the other’s. Compromise is the key to any lasting marriage and its effect on the causes of divorce cannot be overstated.
Most, if not all, causes of divorce would be abolished if both parties had a strong marriage commitment. No problem would be insurmountable if both partners were committed to their marriage.
The causes of divorce are numerous, but the root cause usually stems from a lack of communication, compromise or commitment. Both knowing the importance of these factors and focusing on them will possibly ensure a lifelong, mutually satisfying marital partnership. Dismissing their importance could result in seeking the advice of a reputable divorce attorney.
Surveys have been distributed to experienced divorce lawyers to uncover some of the most common reasons stated for the dissolution of a marriage. The reasons most often listed as the causes of divorce are poor communication, financial difficulties, lack of commitment to the union, dramatic priority changes, and infidelity. Other factors play a role in the causes of divorce, but they are not as common. These reasons are unmet needs, addiction and substance abuse, physical, sexual and emotional abuse and absence of conflict resolution skills.
Most likely, the issues that drew either party to seek the services of a divorce lawyer could be linked to the breakdown in one or all of the areas that ensure that a marriage will last. Marriages are built or broken on their ability to adhere to the three basic principles of communication, compromise and commitment.
How Can the Causes of Divorce be Avoided?
Communication is the backbone of a stable marital relationship. It is not only important to communicate, but to know how to do it effectively. Causes of divorce, such as poor communication, infidelity and financial difficulties could be addressed if both parties spent time talking and listening to their significant other. Unfortunately, talking with one’s spouse is often low on the list of priorities with the demands of home, children and work. Todays fast pace lifestyle will eventually take its toll, and the marriage is usually the first to suffer.
Many causes of divorce can be linked to a lack of compromise on the part of both parties. When one partner in a marriage continually overrides the desires of the partner, it will eventually breed resentment. Marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship. Each person needs to feel that their opinions, feelings, needs and wants are just as important as the other’s. Compromise is the key to any lasting marriage and its effect on the causes of divorce cannot be overstated.
Most, if not all, causes of divorce would be abolished if both parties had a strong marriage commitment. No problem would be insurmountable if both partners were committed to their marriage.
The causes of divorce are numerous, but the root cause usually stems from a lack of communication, compromise or commitment. Both knowing the importance of these factors and focusing on them will possibly ensure a lifelong, mutually satisfying marital partnership. Dismissing their importance could result in seeking the advice of a reputable divorce attorney.
Tuesday, 6 April 2010
The Unauthorized Tell-All Of The California Divorce
It seems like every other week that the tabloid and entertainment magazines are blasting the news of another high profile couple are calling it quits. The hush-hush settlements total in the millions and the drama can drag on for months. More times than not, there is a third party involved in the bust-up; fingers and accusations are pointed in every direction. For many, this seems to be the normal proceedings for a California divorce: rich and messy.
The broken marriages heard around the world make up only a very small percentage of divorces conducted in California. Most are carried out without any media scrutiny whatsoever. The vicious shark-like lawyers are almost an urban legend (or they moved to Las Vegas), and any property is decided and divided up faster than candy shooting out of a PEZ dispenser. Not to say any part of a divorce, be it in California or anywhere else, is easy; but the screaming matches and diva antics belong in a Dynasty storyline with Rocky Mountain-esque shoulder pads and too much mascara.
It Is Not Like Hotel California...
There are plenty of couples who chose to be married “Vegas style”; is there such a thing as a California style divorce? Are there any special stipulations that set Hollywood Land apart from anywhere else? There are some California divorce laws that are similar, is not the same as in other states. “No fault” divorces can be granted almost anywhere in the country. Usually there is a waiting period involved of at least several months.
The state of California legally allows a divorce for two reasons: irreconcilable differences and incurable insanity. And telling the judge that your spouse has driven you crazy will not cut the mustard. A complete and competent psychological evaluation will be required for the court. There are no “incompletes” when it comes to filing for a divorce in California. You must state the grounds, or reason(s) for wanting to terminate the marriage.
If the courtroom can be avoided, it is widely recommended that you do so. Not only is it more expensive, but also more emotionally and psychologically taxing on everyone involved. Many times, the spouses can reach the same agreements that they would ask a judge to rule on. In California, a marriage of five years or less can be put to rest with a summary of actions. If you have been married for at least ten years, be prepared to deal with a fifty percent split of your assets.
The broken marriages heard around the world make up only a very small percentage of divorces conducted in California. Most are carried out without any media scrutiny whatsoever. The vicious shark-like lawyers are almost an urban legend (or they moved to Las Vegas), and any property is decided and divided up faster than candy shooting out of a PEZ dispenser. Not to say any part of a divorce, be it in California or anywhere else, is easy; but the screaming matches and diva antics belong in a Dynasty storyline with Rocky Mountain-esque shoulder pads and too much mascara.
It Is Not Like Hotel California...
There are plenty of couples who chose to be married “Vegas style”; is there such a thing as a California style divorce? Are there any special stipulations that set Hollywood Land apart from anywhere else? There are some California divorce laws that are similar, is not the same as in other states. “No fault” divorces can be granted almost anywhere in the country. Usually there is a waiting period involved of at least several months.
The state of California legally allows a divorce for two reasons: irreconcilable differences and incurable insanity. And telling the judge that your spouse has driven you crazy will not cut the mustard. A complete and competent psychological evaluation will be required for the court. There are no “incompletes” when it comes to filing for a divorce in California. You must state the grounds, or reason(s) for wanting to terminate the marriage.
If the courtroom can be avoided, it is widely recommended that you do so. Not only is it more expensive, but also more emotionally and psychologically taxing on everyone involved. Many times, the spouses can reach the same agreements that they would ask a judge to rule on. In California, a marriage of five years or less can be put to rest with a summary of actions. If you have been married for at least ten years, be prepared to deal with a fifty percent split of your assets.
Monday, 5 April 2010
Lower Your Costs with Your Atlanta Divorce Lawyer
Atlanta divorce lawyers are many, but the problem comes in trying to find the right one who has experience as well as a track record that speaks well of handling divorces. Searching the Internet with different search engines should provide you with a plethora of information, and many Atlanta law firms have their own websites that will provide you with useful information to help you select a particular Atlanta divorce lawyer.
The Shortlist: A Handful of Possible Candidates
Having begun your search for an Atlanta divorce lawyer, make a shortlist of about a handful of names that appear to be right for you. You can then contact each one and inquire about your case to ascertain how comfortable you feel with each person. Are they good listeners, and more importantly, how well do they understand your situation? Is the language that they use filled with legalese, or are they good at getting across their points without needing to confuse and befuddle you with heavy doses of jargon and legal terminology?
Finding the Atlanta divorce lawyer from among the short list of candidates may be simplified further if the lawyer is adept at making a quick decision and can tell you instantly whether you ought to sue or not. The Atlanta divorce lawyer should also be able to tell you how long your case would be expected to take and what the costs would be. Can he give you your expected probability of winning the case and whether it would be economically viable to you as well?
Divorce certainly is a messy affair, and when contested it can lead to arguments, disagreements and plenty of unpleasantness. Compromise often eludes the contestants and the Atlanta divorce lawyer will charge you for such situations. Another area of interest for these lawyers is the need to uncover information and develop a winnable case. Employing the best strategy while also safeguarding your monetary interests are areas where you need to be choosy in whom to appoint as your Atlanta divorce lawyer.
You can tap a divorce lawyer for a case evaluation, which most attorneys will provide for free. Fees too will vary, with uncontested cases costing less. You would probably be advised by your Atlanta divorce lawyer to consider whether to contest who owns the property, who will take possession, and the terms under which such action such will be performed.
The more unresolved issues there are, the more you will expect your Atlanta divorce lawyer to charge you; so it is better to reach an understanding with your partner rather than get involved in costly divorce case. Employing an Atlanta divorce lawyer can cost anywhere from a mere hundred dollars to thousands of dollars, which will vary based on the services provided and the nature of the case. Some Atlanta divorce lawyers even charge two hundred dollars per hour, and for uncontested divorces the rates may be as high as a thousand dollars. So, keep your contentiousness under control during your divorce proceedings, or you will end up paying for it in more ways than one.
The Shortlist: A Handful of Possible Candidates
Having begun your search for an Atlanta divorce lawyer, make a shortlist of about a handful of names that appear to be right for you. You can then contact each one and inquire about your case to ascertain how comfortable you feel with each person. Are they good listeners, and more importantly, how well do they understand your situation? Is the language that they use filled with legalese, or are they good at getting across their points without needing to confuse and befuddle you with heavy doses of jargon and legal terminology?
Finding the Atlanta divorce lawyer from among the short list of candidates may be simplified further if the lawyer is adept at making a quick decision and can tell you instantly whether you ought to sue or not. The Atlanta divorce lawyer should also be able to tell you how long your case would be expected to take and what the costs would be. Can he give you your expected probability of winning the case and whether it would be economically viable to you as well?
Divorce certainly is a messy affair, and when contested it can lead to arguments, disagreements and plenty of unpleasantness. Compromise often eludes the contestants and the Atlanta divorce lawyer will charge you for such situations. Another area of interest for these lawyers is the need to uncover information and develop a winnable case. Employing the best strategy while also safeguarding your monetary interests are areas where you need to be choosy in whom to appoint as your Atlanta divorce lawyer.
You can tap a divorce lawyer for a case evaluation, which most attorneys will provide for free. Fees too will vary, with uncontested cases costing less. You would probably be advised by your Atlanta divorce lawyer to consider whether to contest who owns the property, who will take possession, and the terms under which such action such will be performed.
The more unresolved issues there are, the more you will expect your Atlanta divorce lawyer to charge you; so it is better to reach an understanding with your partner rather than get involved in costly divorce case. Employing an Atlanta divorce lawyer can cost anywhere from a mere hundred dollars to thousands of dollars, which will vary based on the services provided and the nature of the case. Some Atlanta divorce lawyers even charge two hundred dollars per hour, and for uncontested divorces the rates may be as high as a thousand dollars. So, keep your contentiousness under control during your divorce proceedings, or you will end up paying for it in more ways than one.
Sunday, 4 April 2010
Considering a Divorce? How long does it take?
What is Divorce, What are the steps of getting a divorce, Can I get a divorce, How long do we have to be apart before we can get a divorce all these questions are regular questions asked my a husband or wife who are considering a divorce.
Divorce has the definition of the dissolution of marriage the break down the ending of the marriage before either partner dies or the legal act of ending a marriage. A divorce can be annulled where the marriage is made void via the effects of marriage including child custody, distribution of property and spousal support.
I will now explain the process of applying for a divorce and other information you may need to know: -
Either party can make an application for a divorce, the person who makes the application will be known as the ‘Petitioner’ and the other party named as the ‘Respondent’, if there is any other people involved these will be known as ‘Co-respondents’. You will need to prove the marriage has broken down by either of these points: -
• Adultery by the respondent
• Unreasonable behaviour
• Desertion by the respondent for 2 years or more
• Separation for 5 years
The other information you will need to show with your petition for a divorce are: -
• Your Marriage certificate
• Copies of the petition for service on the respondent
• Reconciliation statement (if a solicitor is acting for petitioner)
• Public funding certificate (if applicable)
• Arrangements of statements for any children (where they live and who with, schools they attend, contact information etc)
• Court fees
The respondent who has been served the divorce by the petitioner are served upon them: -
• Statement of arrangements
• Petition
• Notice of proceedings
• Notice of public funding (if applicable)
• Acknowledgement of Service reveals if the respondent is to defend the petition or also has the intention of a divorce, if there has been an agreement for where the children live, access rights etc if this is applicable, if the respondent agrees to pay the court fees and any other processing fees.
If after this processes the respondent agrees to all of the above an Affidavit statement is sent by the petitioner to the Court, this swears that the Petition is accurate. This Affidavit is a written statement, which contains evidence given on oath. Its usually written in numbered paragraphs, you can attach other documents to this Affidavit.
From this point the District Judge considers the Petition and to a decree the divorce, if the Judge agrees a Decree Nisi date is set. Six weeks from this date the petitioner can apply for a Decree Absolute the respondent can apply three months from the six weeks has expired by a court application.
Divorce how long does it take? You might be wondering how long this process may take, every divorce is different and so the time it takes to divorce varies from court to court, case to case. The average time is 5 to 8 months but it depends on the type of divorce and if it involves minor children. The help of an experienced family lawyer can help reduce stress when dealing with custody and access battles through the legal process.
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